Hats off to Mommy and Daddy

Grandma Kc wrote this on July 29th, 2011 13 Replies

Long before Amara was ever born her Mommy had some very strong opinions on how children and parents should behave in public. I like to think that I played a role in her mindset. I think she remembers the time when as a 4 or 5 year old she was physically removed from a store – by me. She kicked and screamed the entire way to the car but it only happened once, she was a very fast learner and sitting in the car with an angry and unsympathetic Mommy while her Daddy finished the shopping wasn’t fun and I don’t think she wanted to do it a 2nd time.

Obviously, not all parents feel this strongly about how kids should behave in public. Yesterday certainly seemed to be proof of that. There were children screaming, having temper tantrums and generally making life miserable for everyone around them!

I love going shopping with Amara and her Mommy. OK, Amara and I do get a little crazy and at least once during each shopping trip Jenna has to turn to the two of us and say “Do I need to talk to you two?” but it said with love and with a giggle in her eye. We just like being silly and at least we are well behaved, unlike the children running wild in the mall yesterday while parents were completely oblivious. One child even ran by Jenna, smacked her as he went by and said “HI!”. He and his sister were playing tag in the store. They were not the only children running amuck. They were everywhere! One parent did glance over and go “hey” and then went back to her shopping as her 5 kids pulled clothes off the shelves.

Now Amara is not perfect and she does try and push the envelope sometimes. She is seven. But her Mommy has taught her you don’t run and scream and play in the store. She has been taught that if you pick something up off of a shelf to look at it that you must try your best to fold it and put it back the way you found it. If you take down something on a hanger – you must put it back neatly.

So hats off to Amara’s Mommy and Daddy for doing such a great job of teaching Amara to “act like a lady” and to be respectful of other people and their things.

This post has been linked to Say it Saturday at Family Home and Life.

13 thoughts on “Hats off to Mommy and Daddy

  1. Sandy Siegel

    Kudos to you, Grama Kc! You set all this in motion because you were a great mom! Now you’re a great Grama too! And a great sister, by the way!! xoxo

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  2. Sarah

    Wonderful!!! When shopping with my grown children, and kids are running wild around us, I always say to them “I am sure glad you are grown up” and they laugh.

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  3. Grams

    I wish more people would teach their children how to behave properly in public. Mine were never allowed to run wild. They new how to behave in a restaurant or a store at a very early age. I will admit that it was easier to train my daughter than my son. He did occasionally run amok.

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  4. Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs

    Yes, hats off to Mommy and Daddy! I agree completely with your mindset. My girls never acted like that in public and now will comment when we see hellions at a store or such. Bubby tries it, but the reins are tightened immediately. He knows better, but of course has to test the limits.

    Yes, I am so VERY glad I don’t have little kids anymore…and that my grandkids, so far, are being raised by a Mommy and Daddy who lay down the law, at least when it comes to appropriate behavior.

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  5. Kimberly

    It seems inevitable that I will get behind someone, or the someone behind me that goes down the very same aisles where something is located that I need with a screaming child. It makes me nuts!
    I came across a wonderful tool somewhere along this road. Whenever the now gramerlings ask for something, I always say, “Why, I think that would be great.” “Let’s put it on your list.” Some folk even carry a physical list to write on. This seems like such a preferable answer to yelling, “No, didn’t I tell you you weren’t getting anything.” “Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa……….”
    I did this with Bean from and early age, and continue to with all of them. However, after much shopping and list making with Bean, once, when he was about three and a half, after agreeing to yet another item to go on the list he inquired, “Drandma, what is a wist?” I’ve laughed over that many, many times. Hat’s off to the second generation of polite child tenders!

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  6. Janie of Utah

    Yes, it’s a joy to be around kids who are polite, respectful and well-behaved. Unfortunately, it’s almost a rarity to find a child like that. Congrats to your family for raising children with manners.

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  7. Penny

    Amen! Even my little 17-month-old grandson knows how to behave. The other day at Olvera Street, he’d pick up a toy and I’d tell him to put it down and he would. No temper tantrum (of course, it helps that he doesn’t talk :-)

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  8. Kaye Swain

    Kudos to you and your daughter. :) And I love the list idea by Kimberly. I’ve started saying, let’s add that to your Christmas/birthday list and it really does help. And oh Penny! Olvera Street – they have THE BEST TACQUITOS in the world – at the end food shop- Cielito Lindo – have you tried them? It’s been a family treasure for my family for over 60 years – even now when we all live so far away :) Have a blessed week y’all!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Olvera Street holds a really special place in my heart. My Uncle used to take me there when we first moved to California and I was about 12. To a little girl from a town of 1700 in Michigan – this was the most amazing place with the most amazing little shops! Haven’t been there in so many years – unlike you I have no excuse, it is not far away. I should really take Amara there.

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  9. Sally Kabak

    Absolutely agree discipline seems to have gone out the window. A dear friend of mine tells her grandchildren that you can look with your eyes but don’t touch.

    I have dragged Lucy out of a department store screaming & yelling all the way simply because she didn’t get her own way.

    I remember one day Lucy was being rather difficult. We were in a friends shop & Lucy wanted some sweets. Told her that I didn’t have any money on me, which was true. She got down on the floor & had a good tantrum, yelling & screaming. I did exactly the same, she has never done it since. Lucy of course was not impressed.

    There is a law in New Zealand that you are not allowed to smack children. If caught you can be prosecuted. Kids are aware of their rights so it makes it harder.

    Good for parents/caregivers that do discipline their children, there does have to be boundaries.

    I often wonder what the undisciplined children are going to be like as adults.

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  10. Carol Covin

    Love that. I remember once when I had laryngitis from a cold and I had to teach my then-7-year-old son to come back to me in a store by snapping my fingers, because I couldn’t call to him. So, he had to stay much closer to me in the store. He was glad when i got my voice back.

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  11. Connie

    Love it! Yes I believe kids need to behave properly in public as well as at home. I have no problem pulling a grand child of mine aside and giving them a talking to if necessary. But, my kids do a great job of it most of the time. I am still smiling at Jenna giving you and Amara a ‘warning’ ! What a fun gramma you are :)

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