My Birthday vs Christmas

Grandma Kc wrote this on December 13th, 2013 31 Replies

This is a special memory from my own childhood.

Do you see the birthday cake sitting in front of me? It was 1952 and I was celebrating my 3rd birthday at my Grandparents house. I don’t remember that birthday but I do remember that house. I remember that for a long time there was a sink with a pump faucet in that kitchen and a real icebox. I remember the bannister that my sister and I were allowed to slide down when we visited and I certainly remember the Tastee Freeze down the street.

Kc with her Birthday Cake and present

Now, do you see the present sitting next to the birthday cake? Do you see the Santa Claus on top of that present? That is a Christmas present. That is not a Birthday Present. I was only three years old in this picture and obviously very happy to be getting cake, a 3 layer homemade cake that had to have been delicious! I was thrilled to be getting a present, too even if it had a Santa on top. As I got older I would come to really hate having my birthday 9 days before Christmas. I would come to feel that on my birthday my parents just grabbed one of my Christmas presents and gave it to me, a present I would have gotten anyway!

December was just crazy around our house. Not only was there my birthday, Christmas and New Year’s there was also my Dad’s birthday on December 22nd and my sister’s birthday on December 30th.

I remember one year when I was maybe eight — I wanted to have a skating party for my birthday. That year my birthday was on a Saturday, it would be perfect. But nope, we had to have it the week before because of the Christmas skating parties that were already booked. I was bitter. One year my mom got me a birthday cake from the bakery. It was decorated in red and green holly! As I got older, I came to hate having my birthday in December even more. I don’t remember the last time I was able to go out some place nice for dinner on my birthday — all of the nice places are booked that night with company Christmas Parties. My friends all knew how much I hated the Birthday/Christmas combo. My really good friends knew better than to wrap my birthday presents in Christmas paper — which is all anyone is able to find in December!

I kept threatening to move my birthday and Jenna kept telling me just do it! It is possible she was tired of listening to me whine. Then I got to wondering, if I move my birthday when would I move it to. I wanted to keep it on the 16th of some month. January wouldn’t work as it would be too close to Sandy’s birthday and everyone is still recovering from Christmas and New Year’s. It couldn’t be February 16th — 2 days after Valentine’s Day. Worse problems than Christmas! March? Not the day before St. Patrick’s Day! April 16th? Income Tax and Amara’s birthday. No. May? Our wedding anniversary is May 7th. June? I love June! Everyone who knows me knows that I love the summer and the beach and June is just the perfect month for me to celebrate.

So in 2007 I did it! I moved my birthday to June 16th. Now I do realize that I can’t legally change my birth date but I can and have changed when I celebrate it. I love Christmas and December so much more now. Come June I feel like a kid looking forward to my birthday celebration. Moving my birthday was a great idea. I am pretty sure that Daddy would approve!

31 thoughts on “My Birthday vs Christmas

  1. Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs

    I love that you followed Jenna’s recommendation and just moved the darn thing. My middle daughter (mom to my grandsons) was born Dec. 14. I’ve always tried very hard to keep Christmas out of the picture until Dec. 15, though that changed once she was in college and we had to decorate the house when she came home for Thanksgiving. Now she not only shares the season with Christmas, her husband’s birthday is Dec. 10.

    BUT, it’s better than my poor youngest sister: Her birthday is Dec. 26 and has forever been forgotten. 🙁

    Kudos to you for taking the initiative. And a very merry UNbirthday to you!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I really am glad I did it, too! It has changed my whole outlook on my birthday and on Christmas. The family loves that they don’t have to work a birthday cake and party in among everything else in December. Funny, I have a couple of friends who also have December birthdays and they think the whole idea of me moving it is weird. I though more people would jump on the idea! I’ve met people who I found out had December birthdays and I’ve told them about my great idea and they just look at me like I am a bit crazy. I am so glad I did it!

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  2. debra@ HOMESPUN

    OMG you are so stinkin’ CUTE in this picture!!!!!
    I just want to hug your little 3-yr.old self 🙂

    So…this year what with all of the extra instant grand kids…I just bought each kid an outfit ( oh yeah but good ones, so that was not cheap 🙂 and one toy. That way I was fair, and with my budget extended out to add 3 more kids, it was about all that I could do. But I was ORGANIZED and all of the stuff is HERE and HAS been here for a good two weeks or so.

    So I find out two days ago that Javis, Tallica’s oldest…who will be turning six, has a birthday on the 19th and the party is on the 22nd and so I had to troop into Toys R Us a week before Xmas..not my style! 🙂 But I DID get a big Spiderman gift bag and I promise to wrap all of the presents going inside there with Birthday Paper!!! 🙂

    Happy not-turning-older-for-six-more-months-birthday! 🙂

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I hate that you are so organized! I am not! My goal is to get the Michigan box to the Post Office tomorrow. I am not done wrapping and I am sitting here typing! YOU are going to have such a fulfilling and full Christmas!

      Javis is going to appreciate your effort! I appreciate your effort for him!

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  3. Sandy Siegel

    You are so cute in that picture! You look like a little movie star!!

    I’m glad we celebrate your birthday in June now!! Even so, I will be thinking of you on your ‘real’ birthday next week, and sending you love!!

    Happy birthday, big sister!!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I have pictures of my mother putting my hair in pin curls when I was only two but I was lucky that I had a lot of hair, and still do!

      I wish you could be here to celebrate either birthday with me! Love you little sister!

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  4. Judy@grandparentsplus2

    No wonder Amara is so cute – good genes. 🙂 I love that you took a situation that you didn’t like in hand and changed it. Why not? Well, most people wouldn’t have the idea or the nerve to do it. So, Happy Birthday now and in June, and my hat is off to you for your decision to choose to enjoy your birthday.

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  5. KImberly

    All three of my kiddos were born in the dead of winter. After planning a party or two that was cancelled due to snow and ice, I moved their birthday to summer too. We would have a favorite meal and dessert on the special day, but friend parties were saved for summer.
    What an adorable three year old.

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  6. sarah christian

    Oh, you had so many thoughts concerning your December birthday way back then and probably no one to tell them tool I understand your feelings exactly, and can see why you think they would have just pulled a present from under the tree to give to you then. I have a friend whose birthday is actually on Christmas, and people just don’t usually do 2 different sets of presents for an occasion at Christmas time of year.. I think it is genius to change your birth date to June! How many would have thought to do that, and then the courage and creativity to do it! Congratulations for making that fabulous change. Thank you for sharing a part of you! it is fun to look back and see things we never have given a whole lot of time to. This article must be part of the freedom also. sarah

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  7. Carol

    The Queen of England has always celebrated her birthday in June in hopes of better weather for a parade and festivities rather than her actual birthdate in April. My birthday is in January and when I was a child I always wanted it to be in the summer when I could have a fun outdoor party. Roasting marshmallows and hot dogs and all that. LOL! Not that it would have happened anyway! I have 4 children and none have a December birthday but I always planned to celebrate “a birthday and a half” in June if I had a child born in December. I think it is an awesome idea to celebrate your birthday whenever you want! Thank you for stopping by my blog. I plan to read your blog in the next few days. I’m having grandkids over tonight and different grandkids all day tomorrow .. what fun! Carol, otherwise known as Betsy (because I want to!)

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Hi Betsy! Thank you so much for stopping by AmaraLand. I had fun looking around your blog, too! I really didn’t know that about the Queen but it does make a lot of sense! Amara’s birthday is in April but living in southern California we have had 9 years of wonderful weather for her parties. She has a friend at school whose birthday is December 24th and he had never had a birthday party. This year his family planned a big outdoor party for him in September after school was back in session. He had a wonderful time and I wouldn’t be surprised if this didn’t come an annual thing for them, too! So nice to meet you!

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  8. Joan Stommen

    I love these stories from you childhood! Great idea choosing junecto celebrate your special day! Amara sure does look like you, grandma! Our twins are December babies…….but my daughter lets me celebrate half birthdays……so they get the summer time fun and gifts then too. Happy real birth date, Kc…….and Happy Christmas!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Thanks Joan! I am glad Debra suggested that I do them. They are a lot of fun. I am also very glad that I moved my birthday. I know there a lot of families who keep December birthdays separate from the holidays. My family wasn’t one of them!

      Merry Christmas! Hope 2014 is an easier year for you and all of yours.

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  9. Saimi

    What a novel idea, I love that you moved your birthday celebration to June! Why not anyway it’s perfect!! With that being said, Merry Christmas!!!

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  10. Joy @ Yesterfood

    Grandma Kc, I enjoyed this post, and the adorable picture that came with it! Good for you, changing your birthday to when you want it- as grownups, we can do stuff like that! 😉 I would have loved to have seen your grandparents’ house with the pump faucet and real icebox. What a great memory! 🙂

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Thanks Joy. I wish I had more pictures of that house both inside and out. I was really saddened when I went home to Michigan last year and found the house had been demolished a few months earlier. I never found out why and they hadn’t started construction of anything new where it used to be. It really was a beautiful home with a huge staircase and banister and a beautiful front porch that ran across the front and one side. Lots of wonderful memories of it in my head.

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  11. Joyce

    I am just seeing this post now and have really, really enjoyed it – and the comments are nearly as good as the birthday story! Good for you, Kc! Not too many people have that spunky “take charge” attitude required to just go ahead and change “what can be changed” (as St. Francis said!)
    Your picture is adorable! My mother also used to put my hair up in pin curls for special occasions and I just loved the results.
    Her birthday was December 21st and she always said she hated being handed ONE gift with the comment “Happy Birthday-Merry Christmas!” My dad’s birthday was December 25. I do remember my maternal grandma always having a separate gift for him. Otherwise the day was ignored in favor of us kids. Wish he was still here so I could fix that injustice for him!

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  12. Kim Curtis

    So glad I found you thru the http://www.grandmasbriefs.com Grand Social post and button now added to my blog.! Thank you so much for stopping in at my blog and leaving me a wonderful comment.

    What a grand idea, to “Change” your Birthday! Enjoyed your pictures and what a great bunch of memories you shared.

    Have a wonderful Christmas!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Thanks for stopping by! Most of my blog posts are about my granddaughter but a friend talked me into adding a category and sharing stories about my own childhood. I’m having fun and even Amara’s Mom – by daughter Jenna – is learning a few things about her Mommy!

      Have a wonderful Christmas, too! And may 2014 be filled with only good things!

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  13. lecheung

    So glad you moved your birthday to June. My birthday is June 13th and my two oldest kids are June 13th, my mom is June 19 and my brother June 2. Love June. Thank you for your wonderful stories.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      WOW! How exciting to share your birthday with 2 of your children! June does sound pretty special at your house. So glad you liked my story.

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  14. Vicki Valenta

    You’ve hit on an excellent solution. I have a friend who’s son was born on Christmas Eve. They celebrate his “half birthday” on June 24th every year. It’s much better for him. My dad’s birthday was January 10th. That made it very hard to choose a gift. The stores had not yet restocked and there wasn’t really anything left that he wanted.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      One of my very best friends since high school has a daughter who was born on Christmas Eve. She has always made a huge point of keeping the 2 celebrations separate for her but I still like my idea better!

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  15. Nana Diana

    Thank you for finding me and leaving me a comment on my blog today. I am happy to meet you. Did you know that when you leave a comment you are a No Reply blogger? I can’t email you back from your comment to thank you. But, now that I found you- I am your newest follower. If you want to fix the No Reply thing email me and I will send you the instructions- It is easy to fix. Blessings- xo Diana

    ps. We are almost the same age and I have a very similar birthday picture.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Thanks for stopping by AmaraLand.

      I am aware I am a No Reply blogger and I do appreciate your offer of help. It is because of Google+. A year ago when I became aware of the problem the only way to fix it was to give up Google+ and I was not willing to do that. I use Google+ not so much for social or blog posting but to be able to screen share via Google Hangout with my daughter. I am her go to person when she is having Photoshop issues! Screen share has helped us SOOOOO very much! If it wasn’t for that one little feature I would willingly drop Google+.

      I did some research and now if you jump through enough back and forth hoops you can get it to work. Quit Google+, get a new limited Blogger profile, rejoin Google+. For me and what my blog is – it just isn’t worth the hoops! Isn’t it just crazy that Google owns Blogger and they make it so difficult to play together?

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  16. AEKK

    You were quite lovely in your childhood.
    I missed the old house as well. I lived there during my whole childhood. Now it is still there but old.
    Sometimes I go past it and will give it a second or third glance. The childhood was wonderful.
    The late Happy Birthday to you!

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  17. An Enchanted Cottage

    What a fabulous idea!! You know, I just LOVE looking at your old photos. They could be mine. That era had its own distinct look, that’s for sure! I was born in ’52 so we’re basically the same age. I think I might get some of my old photos out and scan them and post them once in a while. It’s such fun looking back on those simpler days!

    I’m SO happy you have your squirrels! I have posted umpteen times about our backyard squirrels and chipmunks. The chipmunks actually sit on our lap and eat peanuts out of our hands. They’re so much fun!

    And yes, I am very excited about our bluebirds!

    Take care!

    Donna

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Oh I hope you do get some of your old photos and your old memories out to share! We are almost the same age and it would be fun to compare notes! I’ve tried to get Debra and some of the other Grandma Bloggers to do it, too. Flashback Fridays! No one else wants to play!

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