Horrible Hair Cuts

Grandma Kc wrote this on April 7th, 2015 30 Replies

I can’t seem to decide what to do with my hair lately. I complained to Amara the other day that I really needed to have her Mom cut my bangs at least. Amara eagerly offered to cut them for me. After one huge shudder that came with memories of my mother, I wisely declined and told her the story of the time her Mommy had cut her grandma’s hair.

If you’ve read some of my posts about my own childhood, you have probably figured out by now that my real mother was an extremely difficult woman. That is just such an understatement. You never knew what kind of mood she would be in but you tread lightly as her mood changed with the snap of your fingers. You never knew what would set her off.

Jenna hugging her Grandma Alma Jean

When Jenna was in 4th grade, she would often walk from her elementary school to her grandma’s until either her Dad or I got off work and picked her up. The school wasn’t even a half block from my mom’s place and she would usually walk up to the school and wait for Jenna to get out. Mom lived in an apartment complex with a HUGE swimming pool and that was where they often spent their time. Jenna has better memories of my mother than I do and my mother really loved Jenna dearly but even that didn’t shelter her from my mother’s occasional wrath.

Polaroid of Jenna on her first day of 4th grade in front of her new school

This story was about the time I arrived to pick Jenna up only to find my mother in the foulest mood ever. She proceeded to scream at me, “Look what Jenna did to my hair!” Mom had seen a new hairstyle and Jenna offered to cut it for her. My mother let her!

I seldom stood up to my mother but even I lost my temper. I was mad that she had Jenna in tears because she had no common sense. I vividly remember screaming at her, “What were you thinking letting a 9 year old cut your hair?” My screaming didn’t help much, she just couldn’t understand how Jenna had done that to her. I personally thought she got the haircut she deserved!

Is it funny or sad that I also have a very vivid memory of my mother getting furious with me for botching her haircut? I was 10 at the time, she had seen a haircut at Church that she really liked, and I offered to cut it for her. Like Jenna, my intentions were good; we both thought we could do it! We both lived to regret trying.

Therefore, when Amara offered to cut my hair I just shuddered and shared this story with her. The bad hair cutting by children stop here!

30 thoughts on “Horrible Hair Cuts

  1. Joyce

    Yikes. I suppose most of us make momentary poor judgement calls while bringing up our kids, but these are over the top. Save the scissors for Barbie’s hair, grandma! And then to get mad at the kid?! Yikes, again!
    But I loved seeing your pictures. There is so much of Amara in both you and Jenna – lucky little girl! No wonder she’s so sweet and pretty!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I love looking back and seeing the closeness between Jenna and my mom, too. It was something she and I just didn’t have. Makes me extra glad that Jenna and I are close.

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  2. Launna

    Oh my goodness Kc… as an adult I never even cut my own children’s haìr… not even a trim… I loved them too much to subject them to that… I told them both their hair deserved a professional.

    One of Andrea’s friends BEGGED me… I finally relented… her hair was difficult to trim… her mom tried to fix it and made it worse… by the time she was done the hair dresser had to fix it and she had lost 8 inches. I will never cut hair again…

    Your mom got what she deserved, I never would have let a child cut my hair and if I did… I wouldn’t have complained. Your mom sounds like my ex mother… she flipped back and forth too… although she never would have let us cut her hair… 🙂

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Don’t you hate it when you don’t listen to your own inner voice that says don’t do it?! At least you and I both learned some good lessons on how not to treat our daughters!

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  3. Judy @ NewEnglandGardenAndThread

    I’m at a loss for words and you know that unusual for me. LOL My mother cut my bangs and hair sometimes and it was never a good thing so I never tried it. Now, add a nice Toni permanent and I have a real visual because that was my experience. Glad you put a halt to it. 🙂

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I had some of those perms! Thank goodness perms are a thing of the past. I wonder if Amara would even know what one was!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Oh Amara is very good at styling pony hair — which for those of you who don’t have granddaughter this age refers to My Little Ponies which both Amara and Noli love!

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  4. Sandy Siegel

    Oh wow. What a hair raising story! LOL I cannot imagine letting just anyone cut my hair, let alone a child! I’m so glad the tradition has ended! Good for you!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I have always been very particular about who I let touch my hair — especially when it was really long. I can remember more than once getting very angry because their one inch trim left my hair 4 inches shorter!

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  5. Mary

    No common sense on that one is right. If you are going to let a child cut your hair, you shouldn’t get mad at the results! And I know you wouldn’t have had the same reaction after Amara cut your hair, but good idea to leave it to a professional. I learned that also after I butchered myself as a young teen and even my son’s bangs when he was two! Love the pictures!!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I do often cut my own bangs but that is where we draw the line! Now that Jenna is older and amazing at most everything she also does my color. I do think I was wise to just not run the risk of Amara butchering it! And you’re right, if she had I certainly would have dealt with it a lot differently!

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  6. Stephanie Faris

    Once I walked up behind my mom when I was little and asked, “Can I cut your hair?” She said yes, thinking I was just going to pretend-cut it with my fingers. Nope. I chopped a big chunk of her hair off!

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  7. KImberly

    It seems to me that your mom thought you were born her senior and able to handle all manner of things. I’m not sure I could have gotten angry over laughing at the absurdity of nine year old being able to do that. Wow- some serious craziness now. That really is the blessing of natural curls- hides a multitude of bad haircuts.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      You put it very well. I had more on my shoulders than any child should have and it wasn’t always easy. Which I guess is a big part of why I so love my life now. I have a wonderful husband, daughter and SIL, an amazing grandchild, a sister and a BIL and new Mom that I love. Growing up I never imagined that life could turn out so good!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      You just have to laugh about it. The truth is she never had good judgement about anything! Ever!

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  8. Lisa at Grandma's Briefs

    Oh, my. You’d think she would have learned from the time she let YOU cut her hair. I agree: no common sense considering she allowed Jenna to do it, too. Yep, she got what she deserved. (Poor Jenna having to be chastised for her work.)

    It’s incredible the resemblance between Jenna as a youngster and Amara! Such lovely girls!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      She is definitely here Mommy’s daughter! It isn’t just that they look a lot alike in the face but their bodies and the way they move and everything! Amara was here playing with the super soakers on Monday and I just couldn’t get over how much her arms and legs and torso — everything looks just like her Mom’s did at this age!

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  9. Steph @ Living In High Cotton

    Oh goodness, how I can relate. We had a teen foster daughter years ago who was in the very early days of cosmetology. She offered to cut my hair and I wanted to show my belief in her. Needless to say, we still laugh about it to this day. She has children of her own now and she says that there is no chance that any of them will touch her hair with scissors.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      You certainly had wonderful intentions in trying to support her. I went to cosmetology school for a while and I saw some of those haircuts — oh my! At least it will always grow out!

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  10. Joan Stommen

    Funny picturing you yelling at your mother…..you always seems so calm and easy flowing! I botched cutting my kids hair….my son whines about his ‘bowl’ cuts to this day and my daughter cracks up that they both looked alike when I was done! But, wise grma that I am, I hold my tongue when she snips her own kids’ hair. Loved this peek into your past, Kc. And the pics of Amara jogging…..wow, she’s growing so fast! Great fun catching up on your posts!

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