Road Rage

Grandma Kc wrote this on February 8th, 2015 25 Replies

As parents, we have probably all done something in front of our children that we look back on with regret. I made my mistake in front of Amara’s Mommy and her friend and I still feel guilty about it. It was around 1989 and I don’t think they called it road rage yet. I am embarrassed to admit it but for a few minutes I think I lost my senses and I raged.

What a terrible example to set for Jenna and her friend. They were about 15 at the time and we had just gone Christmas shopping. We were pulling out onto the street between the parking lot and Robinson’s Department Store when two girls stepped out into the crosswalk in front of us. I stopped in plenty of time but for some reason these girls had attitude! As they sauntered across the street they started taunting Jenna and her friend. One girl kept shouting, “What are you looking at?” I told the girls to be quiet and I was a bit frightened.

I drove a short distance to the corner and as I turned right the insanity overcame me. Those girls were walking and I was driving a 2000-pound car. Why was I intimidated? I drove around the block and went back looking for those girls. It was a short block and they were still strolling through the parking lot when we got back. I admit it. I chased those girls! I was going to teach them a thing or two. I only chased them in the parking lot and only for a very short distance. I never meant them any harm and I didn’t intend to hit or hurt them, I was just mad at them for being so aggressive. Wow, and what was I doing?

This was certainly not one of my prouder parenting moments.
Please tell me I’m not the only one who has had a momentary lapse in judgement.

25 thoughts on “Road Rage

  1. Sandy Siegel

    We all lose our cool every now & then. I had to smile when I read this! Remember the scene in Fried Green Tomatoes where Kathy Bates gets cut off in the parking lot? TOWANDA! LOL I think you did what most of us would love to do in that situation! I bet the girls who were walking thought twice before they taunted someone again. Sounds like they needed a wake up call & you were the alarm clock!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I am going to have to go back and watch that movie again as I donā€™t remember that scene. I can tell you I would have thought twice about doing it now ā€“ especially in that neighborhood! They would likely pull guns on me! But hopefully they did think twice before having attitude, especially if there is a mom close by!

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  2. Launna

    Kc… you are not the only one… I have had children that were mean and hurtful to my girls show up on my doorstep and I have let it all out and warned them to never step on my door step again unless they wanted to deal with the consequences. I would never touch any of these children but I must be scary to deal with because they don’t come back. Not my finest parenting either and not a good example … None of us is perfect, admitting this to our children after we messed up is actually a good thing, they see we are human and that we make mistakes and we are ready to admit when we are wrong. xox

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    1. Launna

      Kc… I should be getting my fit bit this week…one of my blogging friends sold me on as I did not have money for a new one šŸ˜‰

      I’ll check out the walking from home… that sounds interesting… ty

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    2. Grandma Kc Post author

      I think all good moms are overly protective and we should be! I do think it is good that we admit our imperfections to our children — that way they can feel comfortable telling us of their mistakes. But I still can’t help but shake my head and ask myself – “what were you thinking?”

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  3. Joyce

    Ha! I read this as a mother bear protecting her cubs! That’s not to say it’s behavior to be encouraged because of possible legal consequences, I suppose, but still….I understand! My kids and their friends called me “Serial Mom” through their high school years. To this day I advise all three girls to stand up quickly and strongly for their kids. “If you don’t defend your kids, no one else will!”
    If I were you, I’d consider that “road rage” incident one of your finest parenting moments!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I must admit that I thought all of my blog buddies might think less of me for this. Glad to know I have not been judged! You were a Serial Mom then, now you would be called a Copter Mom, always hovering near by and I love that ab out you! I think you make an awesome Copter Grandma, too!

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  4. Judy @ NewEnglandGardenAndThread

    You are now an official member of the motherhood club where mothers sometimes loose their cool because of perceived threats to their children. I have at least two of these incidents that I could list here but will spare you and me from reliving them. LOL. But, someone please tell me why mothers still feel guilty years later about standing up for their kids? Were these our finest moments? No. Did anyone get hurt? No. Do those kids remember twenty years later that we overly assertive? Not hardly because no one put it on Facebook or Tweeted about it. šŸ™‚

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I really want to hear those two stories! It is so great to know I am in such good company. These days it would have been all over FB and Twitter — someone probably would have got it on video and I would likely have lost custody of my child! We were luckier back then! Not so many people watching and judging!

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  5. Lisa at Grandma's Briefs

    You’re definitely not alone in momentary sanity. Sounds like those girls were little shits, to be honest. Though it wasn’t right to chase them, I applaud you for putting them in their place. AND for showing Jenna and her friend that such behavior (from the girls) is unacceptable. Sometimes the example we set is for our kids to learn to NOT do what Mom does. Perhaps Jenna did learn that from your sanity lapse. Don’t beat yourself up over it. (Does Jenna even remember?)

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      When I told Jenna I was going to write this with the emphasis on it being one of my worst parenting moments she was really surprised. She remembers it but just didn’t think it was that big of a deal. What we can’t remember is which of her 2 best friends was with us at the time! I would be curious if they remember and what they thought.

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  6. Grampy

    Probably not the best thing to do, but…

    I’m pretty sure if someone ever laid a hand on my kid in my presence the first words out of my mouth would be “You should start running now”

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Good answer and I love this about you! I think if they even threatened to do it they just start running.

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  7. Stephanie Faris

    I’m always telling my husband that. He feels this need to enact justice on the road but in people’s minds, they’re always the ones who are right. It’s best not to ever have road rage, but especially in front of children. I think a lot of people do it anyway, though.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Even if it isn’t true road rage but just simple anger towards another driver, you need to really watch what you say and how you act when your in front of children. I think it is even more true if you are the grandparent!

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  8. Rhonda

    I’m picking myself up off the floor laughing. I think we all have had our moments, I know I have. I think my worst moment was someone taking a parking spot that I had been patiently waiting for. The other driver saw me waiting, but when the lady pulled out of the space they pulled in. I had my daughter with me, but I throw my car and park and I unloaded. I had to apologize for my outburst later, but that was one day that I completely lost it. I understand!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Thanks Rhonda! I know I would have done the exact same thing. They deserved to be told a think or two! I don’t remember if I apologized to the girls back then but sure have since!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I can’t help but chuckle myself when I think back on it — and if somehow the girls weren’t with me I wouldn’t feel guilty at all, well not much anyway! Those girls almost deserved to be chased!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Yep! I learned a lesson, Jenna and her friend learned a lesson and I hope those girls learned a lesson, too.

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  9. KImberly

    Did you ever consider you kept those sassy girls from harassing someone that really would have hurt them. They might have needed to learn that lesson, and it might not have hurt the teenagers in the car either.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      You know at the time I thought that maybe they would realize the error of their ways but I probably still shouldn’t have done it. I never thought about the fact that maybe Jenna and her friend learned something, too!

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