When Friends Move Away

Grandma Kc wrote this on July 16th, 2015 39 Replies

This is hard to write. For months now, we have known that Matthew, Mo and the girls might be moving. We’ve known it would be a wonderful opportunity for their family but deep down inside we hoped it wouldn’t happen. We would miss them all so much. We admit we are selfish.

It all became real just before the 4th of July. As Jenna said the other day, “This isn’t a drill. This is really happening.” Our dear friends are moving out of state next month.

Kindergarten 2010 graduation collage

Amara and Sophia have been friends since Kindergarten. They haven’t always been in the same class but they have always been best friends. Jenna and Mo met during that year in Kindergarten and became best friends, too. Since then their families have become very close. I have come to think of Mo as my other daughter, Matthew as my other SIL and their girls as the other grandchildren I never got. They really are very special people.

This closeness will never end. Thanks to the technology of today, everyone will get plenty of time to video chat and text. It won’t be the same as in person but it will be much easier to maintain their friendship than it would have been 20 years ago.

Mo and Jenna and their new tattoos

You may have seen Jenna and Mo on Facebook with their new tattoos of two crossed arrows. Jenna explains the tattoo best.

“The crossed arrows are a Native American symbol of the joining of two clans. Mo and I have joined our clans!”

Yesterday while they were out getting their tattoos, I had the privilege of entertaining all three girls! I loved every moment of it! Since I knew we only had about 3 hours and because I knew it was one of the last chances I had to play with all 3 of them we crammed in as much fun as we could!

The girls arrived around lunchtime so we started with lunch! Jenna and Amara had suggested special food items that the girls don’t have often. We dined on watermelon, Peperoni Pizza Rolls, Mini Corn Dogs and Capri Sun Lemonade! Lunch was followed by decorating dessert! I had made them cookies to frost and decorate! They each made me special cookies and Amara made one extra special cookie just for Grampy!

Collage of the girls making cookies

While they were decorating, they mentioned they hadn’t eaten any of the cookies and I told them they could eat some while they were decorating. Celia wanted to know how many cookies they could eat. I thought for a minute and asked Amara “How many cookies do you think you should get to eat?” “I think 2 cookies.” “How many do you think you should get, Sophia?” “Three cookies” I turn to Celia and ask her how many and she bounces in her chair with the biggest grin on her face and says “20!” I could not stop laughing! They got three!

Amara rushed Sophia to finish her cookies, as next up was water toys! I had 4 new water squirters in the garage – love the dollar bin at Target – plus all our other water toys! I am sure I ended up the wettest of the four of us! It didn’t help that my hose sprung a leak and got me even wetter than the girls already had! Of course, they had to get the chalk out and Amara and Sophia grated chalk into their bucket of water so they could squirt us with colored water! The water wars were topped off with pushups! Because you know, they hadn’t had enough sugar yet!

It was a wonderful summer afternoon with three of my favorite girls!

39 thoughts on “When Friends Move Away

  1. judy @ NewEnglandGardenAndThread

    I know one thing – some new elementary school is going to gain one first class volunteer. :-) As you said, this is one of those times that all the technology options available will be wonderful to help ease the pain of losing such good friends. Now I hope they are moving somewhere that will be fun to visit. :-)

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      You’re right, that is one lucky school! Fortunately, the new school is K through 6 so both girls will go to the same school for the first year and Mo won’t have to split herself between 2 schools.

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  2. Joyce

    It was hard for you to write, and it was hard to read too. I have enjoyed following the adventures of that endearing friendship between families, and it’s not easy to know things won’t be the same. They will remain close, though. What they have is too special to be erased by distance. I think your afternoon with the girls will be something all of you will remember forever. It was such crazy fun!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I was lucky and also got to spend this Friday at the beach with the girls and whole bunch of other Santiago Moms and children. Makes you really appreciate the moments you do get!

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  3. Kristi

    There is a children’s book called “Annie Bananie” about a friend that moves away. It’s so cute, but it makes me cry, too. I’m glad you got to have such a fun day with the girls!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Amara hasn’t had to deal with a lot of change in her life but she is coping pretty well. Her parents explained to her that it is much more difficult for the girls than for her and I think it is helping her to be brave. Jenna and Mo aren’t coping quite as well!

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  4. Rhonda

    Unfortunately life has twist and turns that we don’t always anticipate or appreciate. Glad you enjoyed the day with the girls. Visiting each other in the summer is something to look forward to.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      They have lots of friends here and hopefully they will come to visit often, too. We’ve already told Mo she must fly back to co-ordinate the Father Daughter Dance!

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  5. Deb @ Frugal Little Bungalow

    OH I am so sorry that the clans are splitting up due to a move but you are right about Facebook, technology etc making it so much easier to keep in touch! :)

    And hopefully you’ll get to visit each other physically down the line! :)

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  6. Stephanie Faris

    It’s tough that everyone is so spread out these days. Seems as soon as you make a friend, they move! But social media does help us all stay involved in each other’s lives…plus now you have a new place to visit!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      It will be interesting to see who spends more time chatting online — the girls or the moms!

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  7. Debra

    Friends moving away is bittersweet. You certainly gave the children a wonderful set of memories to cherish forever! I have enjoyed looking at your website- thanks for sharing.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      The girls also gave me wonderful memories to cherish — it works both ways. Thank you for stopping by AmaraLand.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Technology does help but I know that you understand that it just isn’t quite the same. Still I’m glad that video chatting is something most of us can do easily. Unless your Aunt Sandy and live in the boonies and you have terrible internet service!

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  8. Launna

    I don’t like when friends move away either… it seems like it is never ending especially where I live, people are always coming and going here as we are college/university city… I am forever grateful for social media though, being able to stay in contact is much easier but it is still work… xox

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      Amara is lucky that this is really only the 2nd that she has had move away since she started preschool. I know all of us are going to stay in touch.

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  9. Joy @ Yesterfood

    Oh, my, how sad to lose best friends. It will be fun to have new pen-pals, though! I love the new tattoos- very meaningful, and forever- just like the connections these special families have!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      It really is a special bond that all of them have and I’m glad the girls got the tattoos. The meaning certainly is special and appropriate.

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  10. KImberly

    I don’t find making those kind of friends as easy at this age. Bless their hearts. They surely will remember their last visit before the move and hopefully will have more special days in the future.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I just celebrated my 50th Friendship Anniversary this summer. Someday Jenna and Mo will celebrate theirs, too.

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  11. Manhattan Image and Style

    Oh yes, moving away from friends is one of the hardest things we can experience (specially as a child). I am glad you had such a great time with the girls!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I have no doubt that all of us will stay connected — but it won’t be the same as having them a mile away.

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  12. An Enchanted Cottage

    So sorry to hear that your friends are leaving so soon. Saying goodbye is never easy. Thanks for the kind words on our bedroom update. That and other things have kept me from blogging and visiting. I miss it.
    Enjoy the rest of the summer!
    Donna

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  13. Sandy Siegel

    What a fun day for everyone! Love the tattoos & the beautiful meaning behind them! So glad you & the girls had a day to hang out together. More memories to cherish!

    My heart aches for all of you that Mo & her family are moving. As hard as it will be to say goodbye, you will all find a strength you never knew you had, & you will grow. Hugs filled with love to everyone!

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      It truly was a fun day with the girls and I am glad we got to do it. It just isn’t going to be the same when they leave. I know you understand their pain as your bestie just moved away, too. Change is hard. Maybe you two should get tattoos, too!

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      1. Sandy Siegel

        We got together before she left & we made dream catchers! We used grapevine from my woods, & feathers I’ve collected to make them, plus other meaningful little things we have collected. Each one is infused with our own unique energy, and because it was something we did together, we have each other’s energy in them as well. I think of her every time I look at it.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      I do think they will be friends forever. I have 2 friends that I have known since I was 15 and while they both live very far away we still stay in touch and I still consider them my 2 best friends. Mo will always know things about Jenna that no one else will know or understand — same with the girls.

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  14. Renee Spindle

    What a fun filled memorable day that you created for Amara and her “besties”. When best friends move away it can be a difficult time, but they have so many avenues to stay in contact. And knowing how girls operate I’m sure they will use them all.

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    1. Grandma Kc Post author

      It has been over a week now since they actually left in the moving truck. The girls have had a lot of phone conversations as our friends don’t have their internet connected yet so we can’t email or Skype. So glad that mobile phones make long distance calling almost free. Not like when I was little! A long distance phone call was an expensive treat back then!

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